In particular, don’t use your exes as some kind of weird parable for what you actually want from someone. If you want someone who can articulate their feelings like a big girl, just tell your date that.
Don’t tell them some long, awkward story about how your ex was emotionally constipated and couldn’t say “I love you.” Save that shit for your therapist or your bartender.
Now that we’ve pinpointed some of the biggest lesbian dating DON’Ts, let’s talk about the DO’s.
I’m going to skip over the obvious stuff, such as showering beforehand and not texting during the meal (although with some dates I’ve been on, these things weren’t as apparent as one might think/hope).
When she answers, ask follow-up questions that indicate your intent listening and the fact that you have a base line IQ that enables you to respond in an intelligent manner.
This means, as part of your preparation for the date, you may want to read a book, the newspaper, or cultivate a hobby.I know it’s hard, but resist the urge to merge for at least a month.Putting someone in a potentially socially awkward situation from the get-go is zero sexy.Nothing puts a girl’s libido on pause like an overshare.Because you’re a lesbian, there’s an automatic assumption that you’re cheap. And while there are certain women who’ll need to change panties when you pay for the 0 dinner, for most women it’s the thought that counts.