In my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, and Controlling People” you'll learn how to maintain composure, ways to be proactive instead of reactive, fifteen powerful strategies to disarm controlling tactics, eight ways to say “no” diplomatically but firmly, and seven types of power you can utilize to compel cooperation. One boss I worked for ran a very small company - about 20 people. I have experienced many of these techniques as the daughter of a hyper-controlling, domineering, personality-disordered mother and from a few (thankfully only a few) bosses I've had.
Also available: (click on titles): “How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Emotions” Follow me on Twitter, Facebook, and Linked In! Most people were crammed into inadequate little rooms and little desks, while the king had a gigantic office, desk, and chair. Understanding that these are techniques can help you to withstand them, but if you are in the position of being dependent on the person utilizing these domineering techniques, you're pretty much screwed.
Not everyone who acts in the following manners may be deliberately trying to control you. Regardless, it’s important to recognize these behaviors in situations where your rights, interests and safety are at stake. Home Court and Time Dominance An aggressive and controlling person may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical space where he or she can exercise more dominance and control.
This can be the aggressor’s office, home, car, or other spaces where she feels ownership and familiarity (and where you lack them).
By constantly marginalizing, ridiculing, and dismissing you, she or he keeps you off-balance and maintains her superiority.
The aggressor deliberately fosters the impression that there’s always something wrong with you, and that no matter how hard you try, you are inadequate and will never be good enough.
She also takes up and owns her table space, while you don’t have any place to put your laptop, papers and pen.
The table might be used as a barrier to create physical, emotional, or psychological distance. Deliberately Calling Your Name Someone calling your name can be a form of power play, if it’s done deliberately and strategically.
By standing or sitting uncomfortably close to you, or standing and towering over you, they hope to achieve a sense of superiority and psychological dominance at your expense. Overwhelm You with Procedures and Red Tape Some people like to use bureaucracy – paperwork, procedures, laws and by-laws, committees, and other roadblocks to maintain their position and power, while making your life more difficult.Donald Light, 81, appeared in Superior Court in Manchester to answer the felony charge of witness intimidation and a charge of criminal impersonation.Light left court without having to post bail and is due back on April 11.Examples can include any variety of comments ranging from your appearance, to your older model smart phone, to your background and credentials, to the fact that you walked in two minutes late and out of breath.By making you look bad, and getting you to feel bad, the aggressor hopes to impose psychological superiority over you. Constantly Judge and Criticize You to Make You Feel Inadequate Distinct from the previous behavior where negative humor is used as a cover, here the aggressor outright picks on you.