Dating someone who is newly separated
Knowing that it’s ending is sad and traumatic – as it should be. As such, you need to allow their marriage to end before you hop in. And try to justify it all you want, a recently separated guy is still married. Almost the worst kind of married– the one in the middle of a HUGE relationship crisis.Their marriage hasn’t ended yet and you have no right whatsoever to insert yourself into the middle of their relationship even if he is inviting you to do so.If you care about this guy or maybe see some potential, you – yes you – can make his divorce a lot longer, more painful, and a lot more expensive. When it comes to the destruction of a family, keeping things as simple as possible is essential. Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.They have given many examples of relationships that began quickly after a separation/break-up, so I am beginning to wonder if I am selling myself short – being too rigid.
They had filed for divorce several months prior but continued living in the same home until just weeks before we met. The problem with dating a recently separated guy are numerous. If you believe that it’s ok to date a married guy, then you can stop reading right here.Currently, I am using online dating to meet new prospects, though I choose not to date anyone who is going through divorce.I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.Let the two of them muddle through the end of their relationship without your input, distraction, or presence. He may be telling you that their marriage has been dead for years, that she is evil and psychotic and crazy, that he was ready to move on for years, that they never had sex anymore, blah blah blah. You have no idea the truth, you have no idea of their marriage dynamics, and you shouldn’t be in the midst of it.