Dating rituals in america
In the European context, Mennonites historically have been accustomed to considerable control by parents over the choice of spouse and marriage arrangements for a son or daughter (betrothal).
Recently European youth have more freedom in the choice of a spouse, and customs of dating have developed, although more slowly than in the United States.
Such practices have now almost universally disappeared in America in favor of the personal proposal by the young man to the chosen one.
The change has been due to the general adoption of the American concept of romantic love as the basis for marriage.
The impact of Christianity has been to shift some of the parental control over mate selection to the church and to the young couple themselves.Tobit of the Apocrypha still serves the Amish as a model of betrothal and marriage.The rules of the Frisian Mennonites prescribed that young men and women should not associate too freely.In conformity with general medieval practice Anabaptists expected to supervise and direct the marriage arrangements for their young people.To a medieval European parent the marriage of a son or daughter without his consent was unthinkable.