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If there is a woman you are considering for marriage, you should approach her (male relative).
From there, many avenues exist to get to know her better, without having to be in seclusion or engaging in physical contact. Sister Yasmin’s article is informative and of course correct in all it’s statements of fact, but doesn’t really offer practical alternatives for men and women getting to know each other.
In the society that the Prophet (sal-Allahu alayhi wa-sallam) lived, burying little girls alive was the norm.
Of course, the principles of Islam prohibited such barbarism – regardless of what was widespread at the time.
What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).
Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.
However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.
We seem to have these two extremes – either an arranged marriage between cousins, which is generally unhealthy and seems to end in misery more often than not, or a free-for-all where young people must fend and seek for themselves, and often fall into sin.While it is fine for parents or mutual friends to introduce two prospective partners, the Prophet (sws) has told us not to go into a marriage blindly.Once a man came to the Prophet (sws) and told him that he was going to get married. When the man said no, he said: (Ahmad) Islam provides the balanced solution to courting, which protects the individual and the society, but does not have people enter marriage blindly.by Yasmin Mogahed Reprinted from Suhaib As-salamu `alaykum brother, Thank you for the honest question you asked regarding dating. First, you have pointed out that you live in a society where dating is the norm.While I understand and sympathize with that struggle, it is important to make clear that just because something is the norm in one’s society, does not justify participating in it.