Dating a man not yet divorced
A good follow-up question to ask is, “If this person is still married, what is his purpose in dating me?
” At this point it can’t be to get married because legally he can’t get remarried.
A healthy purpose for a dating relationship is to discern possible marriage.
Otherwise the dating relationship is nothing more than selfishness of either one or both people.
You will also be able to see his body language and tone of voice as he talks about the divorce.
The answer to this question could potentially give you valuable insight into how the man views marriage, handles conflict, and his plans for a future relationship or marriage.
There are different opinions about how long it takes. In the story I told above, my boyfriend had been divorced for about three years and yet he was still hurting.
It takes time to heal from a divorce whether or not the divorce was a person’s choice. And of course the time depends on the circumstances and what was done after the divorce to heal from it properly.
Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.
It was the first year I went, and even though it was for singles, I was dating someone at the time, a man previously married. My boyfriend and I spent time together, but we weren’t inseparable like you might think.
If it’s our desire to treat marriage as a covenant between two people that represents Jesus’ covenant with the Church, then we must respect marriage.
That means that until a legal divorce has taken place, the person is still married, even if their separation from their spouse goes on for months or years.