Advice on dating single moms
It is important for her to feed her needs, even if they are primal.
Emojis have nothing on the emotional forecast of a woman who has weathered a divorce.
They share the same feelings (as I did and do) of excitement, trepidation, anxiety, confusion and fear over their newborn single status.
I've made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks.
I missed out on the 10 years of dating and hard knock life lessons of an un-committed Gen X'er.
I had no clue how to behave or what to expect from another mate, not to mention the men I was connecting with had no experience with a woman with children, posing another layer of complications.
Just by listening, you are building trust and intimacy. One of the loneliest moments of my days over the past few years has been dinner time.
It is a blessing to sit with my children every evening, but there is a deep ache as I set the table for three.
There are men out there who will embrace you and your children without hesitation, and they will see it as a blessing. My 19-year-old self thawed in the middle of Single-town, expected to assume the role of a 31-year-old eligible bachelorette with an A-game. I spent the entire decade of my 20s hibernating in the cave of accelerated adulthood -- planning a wedding, building a home, getting pregnant, having miscarriages, getting pregnant again, breastfeeding, home making and child-rearing.
I wrote this piece with the intention of supporting the man interested in a woman with children.
To offer him a peek inside her life, to help him understand her better.
When you don't have anyone to answer to, come home to, or care for, your schedule belongs to you. A woman with children can't, nor could she even if she wanted to be. Daily life is planned out because children need consistency and boundaries, and she needs to maintain her sanity.
There is meal time, bed time, a routine, a school schedule, a homework schedule, dentist appointments, doctor appointments, dance class, time with mom and time with dad.